It is not unusual for people to go online to find people to date. So-called online dating is really nothing new. First came the dating sites. In fact, they still exist and they cater for all different audiences. Then came the dating apps, which also cater to all different audience. But, how about instant messaging apps and, specifically, Kik Messenger? Is Kik Messenger suitable for dating?
There are so many different dating apps available that you may be wondering why would anybody use an instant chatting app such as Kik Messenger for dating instead. It is a more than valid question. There are all kinds of dating apps that it may seem unnecessary to use some other app for something that seems so available elsewhere.
Of course, how people go about dating is their own business. Just because an app is designed specifically for dating, it does not mean that you would necessarily find the one or Mr/Ms. Right on it. It is also true that many of those so-called dating sites are geared more toward finding Mr/Ms. Right Now rather than anything more enduring.
There seems to be a lot of pressure in dating apps, too. Using a dating app may seem a little bit to direct for some people. What if you are just interested in chatting and see how things go from there? If you meet someone you seem to get a long really well with and you both sense some potential, why not date?
This is probably why, despite the proliferation of dating apps and sites, many people find dates (and even eventually true love) elsewhere online. For example, social media sites such as Twitter or Facebook is where some people have found the right match, even if that was not their original intention, let alone the raison d’être of those social media sites / apps.
When it comes to the Kik Messenger app, the possibilities are really endless. In the next section of this article we will explore these possibilities and the reasons why using the Kik Messenger app for dating is, at least, worth considering.
Why Use the Kik Messenger App for Dating?
Before we go into the reasons why Kik Messenger can also be used for dating, let’s clarify that we are not, in any way, saying that Kik Messenger is a better or, if you like, a more effective way to getting dates online than an actual dating app or site. Instead, we are saying that Kik Messenger could be a perfect alternative to those other online services. Here is a list of things to consider when it comes to using the Kik Messenger for dating:
- Kik Messenger is an instant messaging app. This seems like a really obvious thing to say but consider that that rather obvious and succinct description of the app is perfect because in very few words it encapsulates what Kik Messenger is all about. That definition says very little and a lot in just a few words. Kik Messenger is all about sending and receiving messages. The content of said messages is entirely up to you. Therefore, you can use Kik Messenger to tell jokes, talk about movies, politics, music, the weather,… and to date.
- Less pressure: when you join a dating site and register at a dating app, there is a lot of pressure to meet new people and go on dates. Some people may thrive in such a pressured environment. Other people, however, may find such an environment too overwhelming and off-putting or, even, too contrived. If you are someone who wants to meet new interesting people and see how it goes without any expectations or a predetermined agenda, you may find that those dating apps are not quite your thing. In that case, you may want to consider joining the Kik Messenger app.
- Dating pool: normally when you join a dating app or site, your dating pool is limited to people you have never met (in some cases, you may coincidentally find someone you already know, depending where you live, etc.). The Kik Messenger app, however, has millions of users all over the world. This is a double-edged sword because you it means that you may chat to someone you really like only to find out that they live on the other side of the country or, even worse, in a different country. But there are several positive things about this, too. For example, if you are open to meeting people from different places or have a more international outlook on dating, you will probably love having the chance of meeting people from all over the world. Also, particularly if you use address book matching, you can add your contacts to the Kik Messenger app. This means that not only can you chat to strangers (as you would with people on a dating app or site) but also with people you know IRL (in real life).
- Enhance your flirting: the Kik Messenger app has lots of different features that allow its users to enhance their chats. Some of those features can make chatting a lot more fun or more meaningful. Consider using stickers, GIFs, or interacting with Kik bots as part of your online dating experience.
“Shine a light through an open door / Love and life I will divide / Turn away cause I need you more / Fell the heartbeat in my mind / It’s the way I’m feeling I just can’t deny / But I’ve gotta let it go / We found love in a hopeless place” – Rihanna, featuring Calvin Harris.
Kik Messenger is far from a “hopeless place” to find love. If anything it may seem like a slightly unusual place for online dating, but that is only if you have not used it for that purpose before.
How About Catfishing?
Catfishing is the most common name for the phenomenon whereby someone pretends to be a totally different person online (often someone with a different age or gender identity). Very often, people who take part in so-called “catfishing” are interesting in starting romantic entanglements so you could find them “gracing” dating apps and sites with their presence. However, many of them also use fake identities on social media sites (such as Facebook) and even instant messaging apps like Kik Messenger.
What this means is that if you decide to use Kik Messenger for dating, unfortunately, you will not be free from occasionally encountering a fake profile. Let’s say you are just as likely to encounter one on Kik Messenger, as you would be anywhere else online.
The best way to verify whether you are chatting with a fake profile would be to ask the person in question to send you a picture. Instead of asking them to send you any old picture they may have stored in the smart phone or mobile device that they are using to chat to you, ask them to take one right there and then and send it to you straight away. If you have asked the person you are chatting with to provide a picture several times already and they keep refusing to or making up excuses, they may still be genuine but they would be giving you reason to doubt it.
If you do suspect you may be talking to a fake profile and you decide to ask them for a picture, make sure that you ask for something really specific. You may ask the person to do something slightly unusual on the picture (like, say, touch their nose). The point is to try to make sure that the person you are talking to is a real person and who they say they are (at least, in terms of age and gender identity). It is very easy for people to obtain pictures online. Sometimes, the pictures themselves will smack of fakeness, particularly when it is too obvious that they are using a shot of a professional model or sometimes, believe it or not, from adult entertainers. But now, many fake profiles use pictures from, let’s say, regular people. They get those pictures from other genuine profiles in social media and pass them as their own. So, the best way of knowing if you are talking to a real person is to ask them to provide more than one picture with very specific poses.
This method, however, is not entirely reliable, because, some people behind fake profiles are very deft at using photo-editing software. And not only that but now, thanks to modded (or modified) unofficial Kik Messenger apps that can be downloaded, users can use old pictures and pass them up as recent thanks to the fake camera feature that many of those modded apps use.
The point is that using Kik Messenger for dating is not safer than using a dating app or site but is also not necessarily less safe. As we have seen on this article there are many advantages when it comes to using the Kik Messenger app for dating. If anything, it makes for a nice alternative to those other apps available, as it can be less intimidating and more welcoming to some people than those. If you have any experience using Kik Messenger for dating, why not share it in the comment section below?